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Waldemar Pabst For a lot of intellectual men, Asian women are more easy to relate to. They would be someone special. However, I get the sense that not many women that make their way to Pittsburgh are looking for a guy who looks or thinks like me.

But things are changing as more and more Westerners are taking the Red Pill and coming to grips with our stark reality. They can go a long way.

- She was a sex freak and was aggressive about it.

Lots of women bashing. Some of these countries include Thailand, Singapore, Philippines, etc. For this article, I will speak only about Japan; having been there myself. Men on this site preach the red pill but forget that it applies to all women, not just women in certain countries. So with that said, it is time I debunk some of these myths and bring you the reality. In Japan, there is a huge emphasis on avoiding shame. As a whole, Japanese society stresses the image of something as of utmost importance. This means that the avoidance of responsibility and duplicity could be more prevalent depending on the situation. On the bright side most of what I will mention below could be fixed by simply making it clear from the beginning what you will and will not tolerate. There are cultural differences here to consider and you need to try extra hard to get the point across. For some men unfortunately, you will encounter the following problems. Lol no Many men are under the assumption that Japanese women are nice, submissive, and obedient. There was a time in Japan where women were expected to behave this way but it is not like that anymore. Japanese women tend to act this way when you are simply dating them. They will cook for you. They will stop by your house to drop off a gift that was bought for you. All will seem nice and well until you put that ring on. When that happens, the act will disappear. Trust me on this. Do not be deceived. You should be even more alert if she knows that you are wealthy or of high status. No control over finances In Japan, women tend to manage the money. The husband works many hours a week, gets his paycheck, and comes home only to give all of the money to the wife. This happens even if the wife is not working, which is also common as Japan still has a large portion of married women who are homemakers. When it comes to making financial decisions, is also common for the wife to have the final say. The wife typically makes all of these decisions. I ran into this problem with an ex of mine. She wanted access to my checking account and began telling me what I should buy with my own money. I told her that I will do what I want with my money and that she has no business asking me about my financial assets. Of course this was a problem so I broke up with her. Extreme passive aggressiveness Here is a conversation I had with a woman I was dating. I was staying at her house and this was late at night; not too long after we had sex. Go to the store and grab me something to eat. Her: Go to the store and grab me something to eat. Me: Get something out of the refrigerator. I will just not eat though I am hungry. I left out the house and never came back. Of course she called multiple times over the next several weeks wondering what happened to me, but I was gone for good. I just cannot stand such blatant and poor attempts to manipulate me. This is all too common in Japan. The people there do their best to avoid conflict. There is a huge emphasis on this and a strong aversion to complaining, even to your loved ones in private. Being seen as a complainer is one of the worse things possible in Japan. No matter how bad things are going for you, suck it up. A direct consequence of this is the inability to really speak directly and candidly. In Japan, it is nearly impossible to get someone to be forthright about something. This will include your personal relationships when dating so be prepared for a barrage of passive aggressiveness. You thought American women and their shit tests were bad? Many women are running around there with some serious unchecked mental issues and you would not have the faintest idea at first. Problems such as abuse can be seen as normal and that behavior will be projected towards you. There is also the chance of her pulling off a disappearing act, leaving you wondering what the hell happened. Your children will be taken away from you This is simple. You marry a Japanese women and then that day comes when you finally go through divorce. She will take away the children. In Japan, the wife will take them away from you and disappear. In the United States at least some courts treat some men fairly. Sex will be withheld from you Another simple thing that needs to be mentioned is that all too often many men get married in Japan and have their first child. Only to see that his wife has stopped having sex with him. Many men on ROK have said this is a deal breaker so nothing more needs to be said on the subject. There is also infidelity to consider. In conclusion Does any of what I mentioned sound familiar? I hope so because these are exactly the same complaints men on ROK typically have regarding women out here in the West. What needs to be said is that all women behave the same way generally speaking unless the culture checks that behavior. I ask that you be very careful when dating, no matter where the woman is from. Read Next: Johnny Salami I dated J-girls almost exclusively and am now married to one. Allow me to separate fact from KJ bullshit. A Japanese girl can be as big a pain in the ass as any other woman. I have NEVER had a Japanese girl gold-dig on me or attempt to constrain my finances in any way. Author is simply repeating what he read online somewhere. Also true that they suffer way less mental illness than Westerners. This one evens out. Does the author know this from experience? Japanese women are no more or less forthcoming sexually than any other type of woman. Johnny Salami See, even 3, which I said is true, is bullshittily portrayed. WesternMan: Food in the fridge, remember? You were supposed to just figure out that she wanted something from the store. A Japanese man would have known — the Japanese have a kind of intra-racial telepathy. Even Chinese culture, which seems more direct in some ways, is less direct in others. People who have these issues like Aspergers or low social skills by a Western standard would have even more of an issue there. I have heard similar things about France as opposed to the Anglosphere like the first and second meanings of things, but am not sure if this is true. Would he rather Asian chicks be prancing about on Prozac at a 50% clip like white women in the US, jacked up on synthetic happiness? DrBigg Prozac is not synthetic happiness, there are too many physical and mental side effects. They were invented to replace the amphetamines which were used previously that would at least give you a quick high if you were depressed and which of course would also make the patient become addicted to them until they stopped working and then the person would be getting mostly side effects like Prozac. Prozac is actually worse than amphetamine because it takes a few weeks to work but then you have this constant low level agitation and lack of sleep which can lead to delusions and violence. Amphetamines were common when I was a student and we used to take them to stay awake or get high, or fatsos would take them to kill their appetites to lose weight which is why they were made CII drugs. The kids, mostly boys, are just bored out of their minds and some drugs relieve boredom but there was never any medical condition there to begin with. Jesse James I disagree with you, and agree with the author by a certain percentage. You, 20%, the author 80%. The thing about Jap women, like any woman, is finding a good one. We all know how difficult that can be. I mean, anywhere, finding a good woman is hard to do. Then, if and when you find one, there will still be crap you hate about her. And vice versa, we are both human by the way. He is absolutely right about Japanese courts. I have numerous examples I can point to to emphasize the point. The other kid, has not seen his father or siblings until he was old enough to do so on his own. Japanese women will own your ass outright, and have your sorry ass deported. My brother in law is going through this, and has not seen his two kids in ten years. His kids do not know they have three siblings. Japanese women are only submissive at first, because they want those government bennies. Once they get them, you will find out the hard way if she is a selfie obsessed bitch. I have seen so many dudes of so many races marry and impregnate Japanese women to simply outright regret it within 5-10 years. And forget taking her lame ass out of the country. A Jap who leaves there country for a long period of time is as rare very, very rare. Say 5 out of a hundred tops. So, if you marry one, plan on living in Japan, and have fun with the in-laws. They will most likely hate you. One in particular was insane, loud and embarrassing. One was a card carrying, proud to be gold digger. She would hang out in hotel bars by herself to meet rich guys and would date them for a few months, enjoying all the money, gifts and dinner etc. She dated me after her last guy dumped her via his secretary, nice. We banged for a few weeks and then she cut off contact. Justin Let me guess… she spoke fluent English? I hate when guys date the very specific. In EVERY COUNTRY that is not native English speaking I have been to it is prudent to avoid English speaking women like the PLAGUE THEY ARE!!! Thanks for putting it so succinctly. For a good portion of any language training is knowing the cultural context in which the language is used. Every foreign girl under 30 of any quality and had a good education knows English today, and knows it well. These are the only types you pyjama boy lower class losers will get anyway. I have doubts about most of Africa though. Also, consider the conundrum of your statement on a forum where Roosh and others who post about the importance learning the local language in international game. Why would these men waste their valuable time learning foreign languages when clearly there is no need too according to your premise. Either you are literally a retard or you are straight up trolling. Good luck with your life, being so ignorant and disconnected from reality… mikediver Obviously you know nothing of the Philippines Flippo to racist bastard idiots like you. Everyone in the Philippines speaks English. It is the second official language. There are 32 different languages in the Philippines and many dialects of each. My Filipina wife speaks four languages, including English. She is from a middle, to upper middle, class family, but I can tell you from experience that even street beggars in Manila can speak English fairly well. English is the language most common to all, so most important newspapers, and national political speeches, are in English. How many American college graduates with degrees like English lit. Go to any self-respecting country to where probably 75+% of the native population lives — cities other than the top 2 or 3 most international metropolitan areas. Also, Scandinavia because their languages are perceived as marginal and are about as related to English as Cantonese and Fujianese are to Mandarin. First of all a lot of Asian countries like Malaysia and Philippines speak English as a second language and a lot of cultural groups like Chinese people are strongly interested in learning English. Because English is already considered a dominant language — few people want to learn Japanese or Mandarin — a lot of Americans see no need to learn it. I will say more. Two characteristic of Japanese and other Asian women that make them vastly superior to Western women are: 1 They do not seem to have the need for constant drama. They are actually content with a calm, relaxing relationship. American women are so obsessed with drama that they will manufacture synthetic drama just to have drama in the relationship. The difference is they will work with you to get the gold. An American woman will complain that you work too much and are not home enough. Otherwise he might actually know the basic fact — almost ALL my passport visa stickers HAVE MY NAME ON THEM, yes when you get a work or long-term student visa it has your frickin' name printed on it. I live in Tokyo, am Japanese-American, and have been dating Japanese women exclusively for the past couple years. RE 2: Traditionally, Japanese women were the family bookkeepers and the men were the breadwinners. Men get put on an allowance of their own money after they get married. RE 3: The example is a pile of bull-fucking-shit. Most Japanese people, not just women, would ever straight up order you around to do anything unless they are your superior. Most western dudes who come to Japan and date Japanese women do not have significant Japanese language ability and do not date average Japanese women. There are a lot of Japanese women who feel that they do not fit in with Japanese society and thus they learn English and date foreigners. The Japanese government regards divorce as a private matter and does not interfere much at all in the process. Usually, the man and woman come to an agreement of child support for visitation. I walked pretty quickly. Still, the degree to which her personality was shaped by being Japanese is hard to determine. Japan is very homogeneous and look down on dark skinned people. In Japan all the black people where pimps to other foreign girls, mainly being Chinese. Ie Managers and such. Source: Black man that was in Japan for 3 weeks Myra Esoteric Yeah but those are bona fide occupational requirements. Being a flight attendant is considered a form of modeling there. It is like a gold standard. It is much more 1950s Pan Am girl, while being a flight attendant in the West is pretty much open to everyone. Japan has no obligation to treat outsiders like themselves. Which is based on what they see around them due to the high immigration rate. Jios People who generalize are stupid? Generalisations make up almost the entire basis of human knowledge. Culture can be generalised about and so can people. Has nothing to do with intelligence or complexity. They also tend to be political correct. Making absolute statements is problematic, but generalising, however, is not. In our cultures there seems to be no division established between the two when they are actually quite different. You have to prove that you are just like everyone else in many parts of Asia. It is not like the West where being foreign can be seen as automatically cool. Plenty of success to be had for black men in Japan and in Asia in general—and no one is going to shoot you for no reason. They also called me racial slurs but it was ok because just as many race trolls on here say, o was banging their women, but at a reduced rate compared to what other races could get. OK…so you have to try harder. I think that applies to black men anywhere in the world that I know of. That white people have it better? WSSNW There are a ton of black guys banging Japanese girls in japan that would disagree with you. Some of them even post here. People always get this wrong. Japanese and Asians in general could care less about black people. Their objection to dark skin is about THEIR skin. They see dark skin as un-Japanese. So they look down on darker Japanese. Thais are the same way. Mark Frank This is not accurate. I have been living in Japan for 7 years 1. Yes there are many weak men in Japan who give all control to their wives and this has been a traditional thing for generations however again, if you establish what is acceptable and not early on this is a non-issue. If you date a hoe that wants you to pay for everything you made a wrong choice. Ignore it and it will straighten itself out. Not married yet, but again, if you let it happen, then it will. Model 800 Still trying that old idiotic shaming trope? Tell your NSA superiors once and for all that most here have fully adopted their inner homoerotic tendencies in line with the noble Samurai of old. Or do you in fact secretly crave Nippon cock, hum? White women are the most thirsty cock suckers in the world. Especially the mature ones. They deserve all the urine droplets and urethral discharge from diseased cocks in their mouths. FranklySlavic 2 is harking back to tradition again. When men worked all day and women paid the rent, bills, did the shopping, make and fixed everything in the house and bought replacements it made sense to hand the cash over to the woman. After all, what would you do with it, if you work until all the shops or stalls are close? Lol no Is there are a docile and submissive woman in the modern world? No control over finances This is common in women from traditional countries. Men are expected to give women cash to run the household. In the West, however, women want to your paycheck out of sheer parasitical tendencies, to spend for their own whims, and not for the home. But the caveat is Japanese men are super betas because they give all their cash to their women. And so are most other Asian men Indians, Chinese who do the same. How can you be alpha without cash? This is something every man must know. No cash, no freedom, no alphadom. Women who demand all your paycheck actually want to betafy you. How would they then manipulate us to get what they want? We must know that. Mental healthYou find this in all parts of the world. Women are in fact emotionally dysfunctional creatures. They are sub humans when it comes to emotional health. If she does, lambast on her stupidity. That immediately will show whether she is mentally sane or not, depending on her reaction. Your children will be taken away from you Women do this everywhere. In EE, CIS, Anglosphere. Women will take away your kids. Then how would they survive in their old age? Women produce children for that regard. Not out of motherly love, and all that emotional BS. Sex will be withheld from youThis is common everywhere. In fact every woman will do it at some point or the other to a man, in every part of the world. But, if the woman is withholding sex from you, why are you bothering to stay on? Just kick her to the curb. Japanese commit very little crime, and tolerate even less. I applaud them for it. As for false rape accusations, real rape accusations are rarely even made in Japan. Turning to the law to settle a private problem is an absolute last resort for the Japanese. Jesse James True, they do ave low crime rates. But a ridiculous suicide rate. The city of Philly had more crime in a year than all of Japan. But living in Japan after you see a bunch of the sites is akin to living in a medical freezer storing disease for research. Cold, apathetic, uncaring, boring. Water that is clear has no fish. Thus as a mature person you properly include and retain a measure of grime. While the police statistics are manipulated on all levels, even the adjusted true crime numbers are ridiculously low there. Rape accusations are extremely rare. If you commit real rape as a foreigner you have a higher chance of being turned over to the Yakuza for punishment than to see any public humiliating process via police and courts. Guest A TAXI driver in Toyama prefecture is arrested for rape and attempted rape, confesses to both crimes, is convicted after a brief trial and serves his three years in prison. Meanwhile, another man, arrested on rape charges, also confesses to the two crimes the first man was convicted for. He, too, goes to jail and serves his time. Is this a story by Jorge Luis Borges, a case of trumped-up charges from the annals of Stalinist Russia, a trick question in a Cambridge tripos? None of the above. It is a recent instance, and not an uncommon one, of the Japanese judicial system at work. After all, the suspect had an alibi, evidence that he could not have committed the crime and had denied vociferously having done so. But after the third day in detention without access to the outside world, he was persuaded to sign a confession. Thanks to support from friends and family, the real-life victim finally won a retrial after two years of protesting his innocence, and is today a free man. The conviction rate is so high not because of coerced or faked confessions or evidence they do happen though, more than one would think but because there are little to no Japanese prosecutors. The legal profession in Japan is amazingly hard to join. The Japanese government employs only 2,000 or so lawyers. You know, that thing responsible for enacting legislation and shit? You can bet there are orders of magnitude more than that employed in the US government, and even more in private practice or no practice. Even if you confess, it has to be done in a certain way. Your confession is only valid evidence if it reveals something only the perpetrator of the crime would have known. It honestly seems much worse than it is. Statistics speak as long as you show all of them. Zelcorpion The good parts far outweigh the bad. Of course female base nature is similar everywhere and feminism has been trying to brainwash both sexes for 60 years now, yet the Japanese people have still remained somwhat traditional in their gender-relations. Submissiveness follows a strong Alpha-State. Some women are more forgiving of Beta-characteristics and you will find way more women like that than in the West. Giving a woman money to pay for household bills and expenditures is no biggie. Giving her everything is full Beta-land — even in Japan. This kind of shit-testing is nothing. It is a different style of communication than in the West. You have to get it! And frankly I find it better than the common bitchiness that is found in the Anglosphere and the EU. Jeez — yeah mental problems are common, but way less common than in the US. Treatment by psychotropics are just ineffective and in 75% of cases only deepen and increase the mental disorder over time. In the US those women would be fat and drooling away, so you just would not meet them anywhere. As an American man in the US you can have more pull in the courts vs. If your Beta-provider-status was the only thing attracting her to you, you get a sexless marriage anyway — no matter what country you are in. Beta-duty sex is a thing of the past. Zelcorpion That works only until light and gas is cut off. I found that my financially more careful LTRs always saved an additional nest-egg, that ultimately came in handy. If you have married a spendthrift, then you have to control everything with an iron fist anyway. Besides — that is a fault akin to marrying a known slut. Skotch Is there a word for a cultural white knight? Japan has so many problems it makes America look like fucking paradise sometimes. You weeaboos defending the place are misguided at best and retarded at worst. The Japanese do not respect or like you. Why would you defend them so vehemently? This article is accurate. Lots of women bashing. The author is a retard. With authors like these, who needs feminists? He is here to proclaim that we bash women himself. Got myself a Jap GF My girl right now is Japanese from Japan not Jap-Am. Differences: 1 She takes better care of her body and appearance. Closes the door when she poops, and makes me blast music to drown out even the possiblity of my hearing. Sits with her back straight at all times. Cooks and cleans in fact, she is cooking dinner for me while I write this. Allows me to lead. Wants to be choked, called a slut, loves rough sex, etc. Similarities: 1 She has the spirit of feminism in her, even if she is not a feminist herself spillover effect from the West. Wants equality when convenient. I tell her any girl that wants to be my girlfriend will not dress like that in public. She resists, but eventually acquiesces, albeit resentfully. Again, this is not a Japanese thing or even Asian thing. This is just a Being A Woman thing. James Russell Your experience seems to be the case more often than not. If you want to know about a nation or cultures women…take a look at the men. Japanese men are withdrawing from their Sexual Market in droves, a phenomenon we can see here in America, though not as dire…yet. Birth rates in Japan have dropped so low below replacement level, even that their government offers financial incentives to procreate. Japanese women, bad as they are, are still better than their American counterparts, but their men are more beta relative to their American counterparts. We have to remember, all women are the same; hypergamous, childish, liars, etc. What matters is the CULTURE in which they live; does that culture allow them to exhibit their worst behaviors without shame? Does their culture allow them, or even encourage them, to cuckold their men? But the problem goes beyond just birth rates; the fact is, more men are doing the MGTOW thing, which is the American equivalent of the Japanese Grasseaters, i. The more American women continue to descend into slutdom and obesity while simultaneously having an entitlement complex and the power to destroy men legally and financially on a whim, the more men will withdraw from the market, into porn, and soon, virtual sex. Pussy had always been the biggest motivator to produce and create, because women were taught to reward those producers with their pussies. I just checked, and it turns out the American birth rate is 1. So it looks like it IS already happening James Russell What do you think happens to those immigrants and whatever children they have? Feminism creeps into the minds of the women, and the young boys are exposed to our misandrist culture. Then the cycle repeats. Within 1 to 2 generations, the boys will be brainwashed and psychologically castrated just as native boys are. And it does matter if the population is largely composed of immigrants because they are more likely to be using government assistance. Only stupid people like you think that White people are the master race just because they look good on the outside, but in reality, the Chinese and Indians are of superiority against the White people. However, at the end of the day, no race is better than other, only superficial idiots who judge people by looks, discriminate by race. Sorry, but in the case of Western nations, native birthrate is incredibly relevant. Westerners are in a steep decline world-wide, and while you might think that replacing us with every Sad Sack from Central and South America that creeps across our southern U. And idiots always breed like rabbits, no matter where they originate. That Truth will never change. Pussy may motivate 84% of the male population, but an ingrained cognitive need to explore, play, create and understand — a drive to increase the bounty of life — motivates the other 16%. Dweebette Actually, it is mostly women who have stopped dating and getting married in Japan to Pursue education and careers, not men. There are even advertisements and campaigns aimed towards women, attempting to convince them to become mothers and wives. The way it tends to work is that a woman that has a career, and than decides to get married and has a child, ends up never being able to go back to work again. You have also forgotten to mention that men tend to neglect their relationships emotionally, and are away for many many hours. Less women want to get married, because marriage has become extremely unappealing. Men and women both face problems. A person can believe they are superior, and walk through life thinking they are perfect and that everyone else should wipe their butt, But that person is going to suffer more than anyone else, because they will never make peace with problems that they contribute too, and therefor will always face those problems repeatedly. A good human being, male or female, is someone who can own up to their faults and contribution to the problems they face, NOT someone who shifts all blame onto someone else. I totally agree…the fact is that both men and women have a pretty shit deal in Japan post marriage. Also, once the kids are off to University the husband is still trudging off to work on a regular basis while the wife can go on trips with her friends since her house chore workload is much lighter. There are plenty of white, black, Asian, Native American and others that are equal victims to these trends. But things are changing as more and more Westerners are taking the Red Pill and coming to grips with our stark reality. Funny thing about some folks: they bounce back with a vengeance and gunpowder. Further, there is much corruption. Also, as an educator, the PISA is a racket like everything else. Expensive to administer and cares little about accuracy, e. It was mentioned that only half the kids take the test in Shanghai, which is used as an inaccurate proxy for China. It got its anti-American educator numbers. Definition: This entry includes the figure for the difference between the number of persons entering and leaving a country during the year per 1,000 persons based on midyear population. An excess of persons entering the country is referred to as net immigration e. The net migration rate indicates the contribution of migration to the overall level of population change. High levels of migration can cause problems such as increasing unemployment and potential ethnic strife if people are coming in or a reduction in the labor force, perhaps in certain key sectors if people are leaving. Source: CIA World Factbook updated August 23, 2014. James Russell Do you even read, boy? It makes perfect sense. Japanese men are more beta than American men. What makes them beta? So while their women are of higher quality relative to American women, the men themselves are even MORE beta, MORE inept with women, MORE blue pilled relative to American men. I slightly disagree that Japanese men are more beta…How beta they are is much closely correlated to income than it is in the west. In Asia if you have money, you are money. Certainly more fun than watching sports with the guys. The other thing is that the West messed up the trade-offs that traditional societies provide. Men work hard, hold down a job, and you get an attractive, young wife who does her best to make you look good while taking care of the family and household. In Japan, you keep your money and you lose the kids, or you stay married and keep the kids. Seems fair to me. James Russell Look at their respective motivations; the MGTOW withdraw in indignation and disgust. They have opened their mind to the truth, they have had their fill of Western women and the system and society that enables women to abuse men with no consequences. Their withdrawal is an act of defiance. They will not be made an indentured-cuckold servant. The Japanese Grasseater withdrawal is an act not of defiance and disgust, but more of submission and surrender. Like I said, the MGTOW, Manosphere, and Game are the reactions of Western men, not Eastern. The same reaction with different motivations and emotions behind it. To be polite, honorable and chivalrous are the marks of a civilized human being. Men who base their manliness on their appeal to women are, to me, pathetic. Of course, they grow like us but muscle. We have done this for nothing. I almost fell for it but luckily her friend was like a brother to me I had known him for a long time already on my 10th. I saw in her eyes that she just wanted to get back at him. So at that time I took distance from her and Told her that this is not what I want from you. When infidelity occurs in a relationship the man or woman is not getting something important from their current relationship. I do not about what other guys think; but for me I want a woman to be upfront and truthful as I expect her to want to same from me. To really talk and know each other, NOT to manipulate each other as is happening far too much today. Wants to be choked, called a slut, loves rough sex, etc. Are all Asian women like this? The issue is why do you want to choke a woman? The sadism is a disorder as well. Yes, it exists too — for both genders. But it IS sickness, and reflects your degree of objectification of women. Christopher C the only thing that changes is the faces, the places and the scenery… men are their purpose for a purpose and a means to their ends… literally. You think that women are bitches — does that make you cool? Is she ever gonna work once you get married? And that number 4 on the differences list is really creepy. Your woman sounds like a japanese carbon copy of a stepford wife. What kind of weird ass man wants that? Just keep pumping her, till she farts and craps in pain. I remember meeting another Westerner while in the Philippines who had been married to a Japanese woman. He said something about having to sleep in another room after she had children she sleeps with the baby and the husband has to sleep elsewhere. Sex became rare with this arrangement. See the grail was real and worked, but you could not take it out of the place where it was being kept. Thus if you take the Japanese woman out of Japan, she, like the place in the movie, falls apart. Once you bring them to the USA, not only is the mental infection going to turn her into a dragon lady, but the GMOs and high fructose will wreck that body too. Now you got a yellow fatasaurus instead of a white one. CY Women are women no matter where. Asian women are not better than any other women. They are the same. I will go even further, they are worst. I went to japan a few years ago and I was terribly disappointed. I had yellow fever and I can surely tell you not anymore. This meme says all you need to know. Am I right though? True and untrue, fair and unfair. Guys who like Asians are the same as guys who like blondes, or brunettes or something like that. Mud sharks mate below their own genetics, which is different. And the chicks in that pic are all a ton of fail, I very much doubt any white guy would go for them. I have seen like maybe 5-8 chubby ones, but generally Japanese girls are 6-8. It takes a lot more to bag a Japanese girl than it does a western one. But, mudsharking is for the weak. Which is maybe the same thing. And telling me how hard it is to bag Japanese women relative to Western women means little. Yeah, there are tons of slutz here. So be a man and find a quality one like many of us have and have kids that carry your lineage. Granted, it was winter cold and windy. Despite the conditions, 95% of women, excluding the elderly, smartly dressed. I took these pictures shopping, walking to the train station in Shin-Yuriasu, and walking around Tokyo Disney where is the only place I saw school-girls, which is exactly what there were, tween and teen school girls. Yes, a significant number of girls walking around all day at Disney dress in skirts and heels. You be the judge, but this is my reality is this, at least in winter in Tokyo. Just take a look at Tokyo and then at Taiwan. The difference is absolutely evident. Japan is famous for many things that they shouldnt. Before, I used to live in China 15 months in Fuzhou, 15 months in Beijing and 8 in Shanghai and I think that Chinese girls are thousands of times much prettier than Japanese. But in 2 years I havent found any single girl who is more beautiful than most part of the girls I saw in my visit to Wuhan, Guangdong, Shanghai or Taiwan Estafador Yeah I was reading an article on Cracked. Damn media and their misleading advertisements. Japanese women strive to be like white people and will do ANYTHING to considered beautiful and are quick to get plastic surgery, cake up on the make up and all that. And they have the money for it. Like anywhere, the range of women goes from total trolls, to totally stunning unless you happen to just not like Asian girls. Yeah, unlike American women, most Japanese girls are busy enjoying spending time with their friends laughing and studying in high school instead of competing to be the high school blow job queen. There is also a large class aspect to this as well, with working class girls who invariably speak no English dating having kids and marrying sooner than middle and upper class girls. I understand English just fine as you can see, quit it with the bullshit immature remark! He was talking nonsense! Therefore, my opinion trumps and invalidates anything you try and retort. Including that deluded black asshole. I understand English just fine as you can see, quit it with the bullshit immature remark! He was talking nonsense! Therefore, my opinion trumps and invalidates anything you try and retort. Including that deluded black asshole. Estafador must be a real shell shocker when Otakus come to japan looking for big busty Japanese women and see a bunch of flat chested women. I think even anime likes to give their characters western features. But the skin ALWAYS remains as pale as a ghost…except when they want to intentionally make a character stand out then the skin is slightly darker. They have no sense of reality and think their view of japan is the right one and Japanese people can do no wrong. I was ALMOST like that but I was too poor when I was a child to afford a PC to keep up with anime and manga. So I just studied the history, and boy what a wakeup call that was. I think they really either admire european looks blonde hair especially or just want to create a totally wacky character with no ties to any nation. Fewer dogs in Kyoto. They are definitely modernized, though. Nothing quite so incongruous than visiting a pristine shrine and seeing cute Japanese girls in kimonos taking selfies to post on Instagram. Arian Inigo In Japanese public schools, the rules state that girls have to wear uniform, avoid wearing cosmetics, and maintain their natural hair color, which is usually jet black. Once the girls become adults, though, things change and you will see plenty of Japanese women with make-up, alluring attire, and dyed hair. I want a nice not fat but not anorexic either looking japanese women who is older, makes her own bread and can give me emotionally fuelled romance. Does such a japanese women exist because right now, dem black and spanish are de creme del crop? Japanese women are some of the least racist, women in the world. They may not make good wives by western standards, but they are great girlfriends and mothers. Additionally, teaching children to act like robots and to hide their real feelings only causes a repression of the own feelings that in many cases explodes in girl disturbers or in a person unable to get adapted to the society, so throwing himself to the subway rails, something that unfortunately happens almost EVERY day in Tokyo. As per being gf, I would say they are if for you being a good gf means hidding their real feelings and NEVER tell you what they really think, so when there is a problem, you only realize when she leaves your home and goes FOREVER without saying any single word, just a cultural thing that is to avoid any conflict. I lived in Japan for many years during my 20s. Was married for half that time. Though a lot of the time they do enthusiastically say yes. Story time: this is how my fastest lay happened. Whithin 5 minutes of meeting this girl, teasing her and giving her the typical douchey IDGAF attitude before I even had awareness of red pill ideas , I flatly said to her, in English: YOU, ME, SEX, OK? I imagine that this type of scenario can be pulled off quite easily in Japan, especially if you are blond and have blue eyes, and moderately take care of your appearance. You will automatically be treated as the center of attention and the alpha. The eastern Slavs are just very good looking people, at least until the hard drinking, pollution, and misery catches up with them when they get older. To be fair, I suspect Americans could pull this off too, if we were to lift weights more and eat less refined sugar. I do think you have a point but I prefer a bit less fiery girls. Taiwanese seem more even keeled, but some of them can be weird too. One tried to chat me up in a buss while I was there with a Japanese girl. Right in front of her. This was in Kobe. Many people think that Japanese girls are beautiful, while they are horrible. Nothing compared to Taiwanese girls. For people who believes that Japanese girls are pretty, I just want to give you a suggestion, please visit Tokyo and Taipei, and after that say if you still think that Japanese girls are pretty NewLight2016 I am Italo-American, 21 years old and considering to live without getting married. I live under the ideological pressure of a feminist left-wing sister who claims feminism is about equality. And my single mother brings in the wage as she has a job. The juridical system is inherently in favour of women and anti-men. Think a 100+ times before ever signing a marriage contract. Nobody knows I am far right actually. I want to cultivate my masculinity despite the fact I live in a toxic feminazi environment. Corkscrewcaptain Women are women, true. I went to Japan a while back, affected by a mild case of yellow fever. A few more trips and I was sold, and imported myself a wife and am very happy I did. If you have unrealistic expectations, any place in the world will disappoint you. There are traditionally minded girls out in the boonies that will blow apart any western woman in terms of beauty, manners and being a good wife. Corkscrewcaptain Not even remotely close. I decided I wanted to see if a Japanese girl would be a fit for me as a wife, since I got along with the ones I had known then quite well. Falling in love is not what you start with if you have half a brain. And the approval of the parents hinges on provider ability and background. You have to be a solid dependable guy who has a decent career to be seen as a good future husband. Keep in mind cohabitation prior to marriage is still uncommon and frowned upon by most. Likewise sex before marriage. I could have slept with her but decided against it. Estafador you can have children without getting married. Japan sounds like a real terrible place to live. No love in marriage? Corkscrewcaptain You can only have bastard children without getting married, something which is important in Japanese culture. My wife and more so her parents are very traditional, but in Tokyo, Osaka etc, the big cities where there are foreigners, there are people with more western like ideas about marriage and love etc. People seem to think Japan is monolithic in all aspects but this is simply not the case. People in the countryside, especially middle class, tend to be about as modern minded as they were 100yrs ago or more. Not much has changed there. In big cities on the other hand there are lots of people who never visit temples, never follow traditions, and sleep around, cohabitate etc. Difference is like night and day. It depends entirely on where you go. At least do so to understand your fellow man. Crap like that is what keeps stereotypes alive. Maria Al-Masani Around the world women are different, you need a balance. Russians and Japanese women that pretend to be passive, are extremely passive aggressive. I heard horror stories about passive aggressive chicks who look submissive. I am half Arab, from Taiz, so a woman warrior, but my mother is Russian. I made an effort to Yemenize her and it paid off. The best relationship is with healthy assertive people. Little girls go up to me and say princess, and all the little boys run to my husband. My husband is a Ukrainian tech guy who used to do security. We both have traditional family values. Aggression needs to go somewhere. You need someone who channels it in a healthy way — not aggressive like American women and SJWs, and not passive aggressive like Russians and Japanese, but assertive like Yemenis and Ukrainians. Most Yemeni and Ukrainians I know are happily married, divorce is not that common but I speak about what I know. Due to the one child policy, a lot of Chinese women in urban areas are spoiled and can be more aggressive than American women. Philippina Catholic Asian women and Korean Christian women, and Indonesian Muslim ones have solid values and are good spouse material. They are not overly submissive or aggressive, but more centered. Each Asian country is different, what you should look for is religion, tradition, family values… but not in excess or it turns into passive aggression. Maria Al-Masani She was from Moscow, a bl0nde blue eyed daughter of a Russian colonel. My father was a brilliant striking handsome young tan guy with dark hair. People are attracted to genetic diversity. Dageanstanis are more attracted to blondes. Arab men go crazy over blondes, for Russian men in Moscow, blondes are common, nothing special, but that Cuban revolutionary hot latino, that they went crazy for back in the day. Why would a blonde blue eyed girl go for a tall tanned dark and handsome exotic man who treats her like a prince and brings exotic gifts in a boring town where nothing ever happens? And why would an Arab go for a blonde. Are you from Appalachia? Rayo McCoy Im living with one now and exactly like you wrote. We still live together but always argue mostly her. But i dont put up with her bs and dont back down, which she gives the silent treatment for days and never ever takes accountability for her actions. Never again with a Japanese woman. Thought she was great at first, then as soon as it became more serious she became an absolute nightmare to deal with everyday. Essentially like being in a relationship with an overgrown spoilt brat. Of course the side-effects of this campaign is the destruction of family life and the perversion of the male-female dynamic through feminist brainwash, misogynist court systems, emasculation of men, etc. They have been wildly successful, the population of Japan is going through a crisis of birth rate collapse. The worst that can happen is that a lot of older Japs will just have a slightly lower amount to live on without as many young to pay into pensions but it will be worth it to keep the population more homogeneous. The biggest mistake that the US colonies made was importing Black slaves which is coming back to haunt them;and not strictly enforcing immigration laws as they did a few generations ago. For the sake of cheaper labour that benefited a tiny group and Jews who wanted to dilute the native population the US will be finished in the future. Oh the land will be here and people will be here but the US as we know it will be gone. One of the hallmarks of a societies downfall, particularly the Greeks and Romans it seems, was an uptick in the practice homosexuality, which, oddly enough, was also accompanied by the rise of Feminism in those societies. You used to be sane; no doubt about that. What Fury, then, with her maddening snakes is hunting you down? Can you bear to be the slave of a woman, when so much rope is at hand, when those vertiginous top-floor windows are standing open, and when the Aemilian bridge nearby offers assistance? These generalizations are much too broad. You essentially described the bad behavior of women in advanced industrialized nations worldwide. A better article would have been about how Japanese women are culturally different, and the pros and cons of that. This article is just more pointless women-bashing. You met a shitty, dysfunctional Japanese woman and assumed they are all like that. Next her, find another one, and study her behavior. Continue the process until you meet a large enough pool of Japanese women to make a more broad analysis. I spent a year there from 2005-06. The author of this article is correct. The mental health issues are are major problem too… They are well concealed, but if you get involved, they do come to the surface. Watch your bank accounts too, shopping for designer goods on your dime, is a favourite pastime here. Jios A friend of mine lived in Japan and claimed that women fuck around big time just like they do in the U. S, they just hide it a lot better. They tend to keep their options open and you really have no idea where you stand with them, particularly if you are a foreigner. Chester Always take articles based on anecdotes and personal impressions with a grain of salt. No control over finances So this is true…for Japanese men. A lot of them DO let their wives manage the money. I manage all of the finances and give my wife an allowance she is a full-time SAHM. This one is on you as the man to either just run shit yourself, or delegate finance management if you so choose. Extreme passive aggressiveness ALL women engage in run-of-the-mill shit testing. Mental Health This is kind of an interesting criticism. It is true that mental health problems are viewed differently in Japan. In many ways we are a hypochondriac society, too quick to pathologize minor quirks. It goes without saying with any girl, get to know her well and be on the look out for any instability. Your children will be taken away from you There are a few sad stories of this. It has happened to a few western men. Certainly less common than western women divorcing and taking the kids + house + half your paycheck. Sex will be withheld from you Lol no. Again, with Japanese guys, it may be different. Japanese married couples sometimes stop having sex completely once they have kids. That shipped has sailed in the developed Asian countries. To get a quality Japanese woman who will keep you satisfied, you need to have your shit together and have a minimal amount of game. JohnnyMangoes I love how white guys say that any white woman that dates out of her race or dates exclusively men of another race is insane. But an asian woman that does it? Are you fucking kidding me? Or half asian girls that wind up dating thugs or in porn because of the racist nature of the parents relationship. I would give you my life story again how my mom destroyed us, destroyed my dad then pretty much killed herself and left us all alone because she was 100% mentally ill, dying her hair and contacts and whatever… But you guys have heard it a thousand times. My wife now never found interest in foreign guys. She really is loving and I tested her with male shit tests a thousand times over. JohnnyMangoes By the way Chinese view the Japanese as barely above savages. Absolutely nothing in common with them and view them as repressed little shits. They are bizarre in all of their practices and seem devoid of typical human decency. While the Chinese might seem cruel the japs just seen devoid of any semblance of humanity. Koreans are admired by the Chinese for being good looking and clean. So there you go. Myra Esoteric Lol I do not know any Chinese folks who think the Japanese are inferior, but they do stereotype Koreans as being into plastic surgery. Maybe some Chinese view Japanese as short but they also view people from some parts of China as short. My schoolmate, who moved back to Taiwan married a Japanese guy that lives there. BTW Johnny, you are considered a foreign guy not a local Chinese guy. Really, how can you even say such deluded shit? China is one of the most freakishly corrupt and polluted and overcrowded countries on the fucking planet, they have very little respect for life as a whole. Japan is worlds upon worlds above China, along with South Korea and Taiwan even Hong Kong chinese look down upon mainlanders. Look up a site like Chinasmack and try sucking off China with a straight face again. They do it because they can get better foreign men than local men since standards of beauty are different. Rambler As someone who lived in Japan for nearly a decade, I agree with the gist of this article. But make no mistake, they are flighty and entitled, and they change overnight when married. Sam May And yet Japanese women are still better then western women. Just go to show what being told how special you are for having a axe wound does to your female population. They are women first Japanese second but the one I dated for a little while was far better then any of the Australian women I have gone on dates with. But I know MUCH about Japan and Japanese women. My cousin is a bit of a pussy hound like moi. He has been in Japan for 15 years drilling white European DNA into Nippon cunts for a minute and acting like a rock star in the process. You wonder why CH readers surpass RooshV, RoK, et. Reinhardt embodies everything that Western Alphas rail against for EE retards. Busted betas think they can become alphas in eastern Europe and score model hot Slavic white bitches. Busted betas think they can go to SE Asia and act like the busted ass pussy betas they are and score the best that SE Asia has to offer. Guess what pudgy white guy? You are as unattractive in Eastern Europe as you were in the US or the UK. You are as unattractive in South America or SE Asia as you were in a western nation. You think women are not hypergamists the world over fucking think again. Do you think early man, having come back from the forest or field, bringing back an animal or rice, told his woman: hey wait, that shit is mine! I get to decide how to cut up that animal, and I will cook the rice! See how crazy that sounds? Mens job was outside the home, and having brought back what was needed, was turned over to the women of the household. In exchange, women would never question what a man did outside of the house. You still see a bit of this in some traditional societies. Men bring home the paycheck. And then eating the home cooked meal that was waiting for him. The J man may turn over the paycheck, but he takes back the first cut. My wife is Japanese born and raised in the Japanese countryside. As a girlfriend: Breakfast in bed, sex all the time, brought over her female friends for dinner, etc. As a wife 10+ years : told be to die when I informed her I no longer had a pulse due to a heart arrhythmia. That she only wanted sex for procreation and after the second child was done with it. After loosing weight to deal with the arrhythmia told me I looked like shit, etc. WhiteGuyInJapan Over my years of being single in Japan, I have some side really negative aspects of the Japanese woman. In no particular order: 1. They can be shockingly selfish. They often complain about how difficult it is to do laundry! They cook dinner for you and then spend 30 minutes nagging for a compliment. Your praise is never enough. They will cut off their nose to spite their face. They may argue with you over the dumbest things, even when shown to be wrong. They seek the perceived kindness and chivalry of Western men but that can flip around real quick. The wrong way is anything 0. Not joking, ask any WM here. They live in a psychological vacuum. They are completely unaware and disconnected from the consequences of their actions. They are always right and yet they are permitted to fail and give up with no negative fallout. They can always move back in with the parents. I have also found Japanese women to be very sexy, charming, exciting but this article is a bit negative. Pity I missed the other article last year. Also there are many unwritten rules like you have to be married before age 25 not sure if this is true anymore and that there are very different behavior or even grammar rules for men and women including stuff like gendered language in Japanese. Non-Western cultures are way more gender segregated. So they kind of develop their own cultures. I noticed this when I visited Thailand — the only real difference IMO between Western and Asian girls are less-overt bitchiness and a lot more openness to having a meeting with ya. I saw plenty of passive-aggressive bullshit too. Women are women, you still need game no matter where you are. Of course she called multiple times over the next several weeks wondering what happened to me, but I was gone for good. It is not right to generalise certain aspects which arise out of personal experiences as though it is for general population of japanese women …. In all countires plus and minuses exist in women. But over all they are supposed to be good in treating men with dignity and respect. I have been living in China for some time and later in Japan, and it is incredible the difference because while Chinese girls are very direct, nice and they like talking frankly, the Japanese girls say everything is fine and try to avoid conflicts until the problem is too big to solve it. I have dated Japanese, Korean and Chinese girls now my gf is Chinese , and I should say frankly that the MOST attentive and nice girls without ANY doubt are the Koreans, then the Chinese although they are too interested in the money and position you have and then the Japanese, which at first sight seem so so nice, but actually they are not, and they are not seeing you even as equal level to them. I will go to buy it. So, this is the negative side of the attentiveness. And they tend to also be the most demanding in return. I do think that they are the most stubborn to make any changes, but I think that inflexiblity is more about the general Japanese extreme fear of the unknown and not because of some negative judgement towards others. I also think that Japanese are by far the least racist of the three, and are the most open to dating whoever they have a good time with. As for the Chinese, I find that most guys have an easier time adjusting to dating Chinese girls than they do to dating Japanese and Koreans. It is true that Chinese girls are more racist than Japanese ones BUT towards black people. On the other hand, maybe Japanese girls seem more friendly towards foreigners, but they in their inside, they are always thinking they are superior to you and they are more intelligent, EXCEPT if you are American I am not, I am European. Of course this is an issue where many people points of view diverges, as you do from me , because maybe our way of observing people might be different. They are opener, more polite and their way of talking is humbler? Yes, but in their hearts they dispise much more foreigners than Chinese girls, bosses… miguel The most open to dating? Sorry, but when I was in China I can date the girl I want, adn although they seem to be very closer, if you speak good Chinese, you will realize that it is EXTREMELY EASY to have a gf in China. However the impression the people gave me, specially in Jeju was of very friendly people, f. If you cheat, or do questionable things then you will get what you deserve. Trust is earned not assumed as most Western men think. I remember dating a Japanese woman who asked me why is that men cheat and expect a happy outcome. The question eluded her for months.. Something that not even I could slake with words — only action. I think that day you were a little bit selfish. Your children will be taken away from you This is simple. You marry a Japanese women and then that day comes when you finally go through divorce. She will take away the children. In Japan, the wife will take them away from you and disappear. In the United States at least some courts treat some men fairly. In the USA a place where I will never again marry , 75% of the divorces are filed for by the WOMEN. This statistic is staggering! Not only that, the percentages of Japanese men who leave their wives is higher. Furthermore, when the man leaves his wife and children for a younger woman, he is FREE AND CLEAR without alimony or child support! Have you any idea of the single mom difference there is between the USA and Japan? The scales are leaning the opposite way in Japan, my friend, and there is no way that you can have me believe otherwise. You should know already how many mistresses the men have here can have and many of the women put up with that crap to keep the family together, or perhaps they succumb to the same thing but remain married. I will never trust an American woman again. I choose Japanese all day long. A woman needs this kind of man—a real man. Which is okay because all the furstration then will become rough wild sex that you will enjoy. I get turned on by the whole energetic bad girl-like beahviour and not by empty preposterous insulting. Her only downside was that she suffered from severe constipation. Her infrequent bowel movements were indeed very loud smelly and destroyed the plumbing in my apartment- She used to get embarrassed clogging the toilet every time and forced her monster turds into the plumbing pipes causing severe blockages. She could fart better than Mr Methane- She shattered two toilet bowls which I know sounds not possible, but I was there when she released her bowl blasting farts. Well, if you have game then you can just get sex somewhere else playa! In return they are never happy with what they have because they are dating garbage. Chances are you are having bad experiences because you need to fix yourself, not the women you date. Andrew Crisp Been to Japan and I deal with a Japanese woman via work — like some of the other readers that have posted here there are similarities with Western Women and others that are totally different. Not answering any form of communication. Almost all foreigners dating here have had this happen at least once. They are basically the freaks. Ask any normal Japanese man or woman and they will confirm this. Most Japanese men can spot a phony from a mile away. They know their women and the culture and the subtle personality cues. There are many Japanese women who are not at all deceptive, manipulating and materialistic like you describe. And neither do most Japanese men these days. I wonder why there is no comment from Japanese… speak up everybody! One thing for sure I admit the fact that we have pretty fucked up social system- period. And I hate that. But deep down our heart, we want to be free from this gender discrimination and any discrimination , we want to be equal to anyone, we want to be treated as a human being before our sex. First of all, Japan is an island- we have no easy access to neighbors countries, if you want to see something different you have to fly. No one educated me for better. My parents are typical case of Japanese parents men go fishing and woman do laundry and raise kids.. And they somewhat believe that acting the way as the writer claim No3 is OK with Westerner. Because what we as a woman learn from Western media is how Western women behave and act toward men. To our eyes, Western women know what they want, their needs and demand are OK to express unlike us. I witness lots of Japanese women somehow misunderstood about themselves regards to be in a relationship with a Western male, and it is embarrassing me too often times. We can only strive up to the highest height which is decided by Japanese men so far. And also I think it is solely based on individual experiences with a Japanese woman after all. If you are dating a Japanese woman and find some issues like that, yeah excuse us we have strong controlling issue and unsure about ourselves where to stand in a relationship with Westerners. I ask that you be very careful when dating, no matter where the woman is from. However, even then, what you think you see isnt being interpreted correctly. In re to Japan, someone just showing up there couldnt possibly figure out why the women do what they do. You simply arent conditioned for it— you can pretend all you want but you are a rookie. Asia, and especially Japan, are something out of your depth of understanding— comparing the women there to Latinos, Americans are Eastern Europeans can be useless. In terms of quality and pound for pound value, Japanese women, in general, are probably in a category all of their own. Any gaijin living there for any extended period of time— you will be hard pressed to find ones that end up with American women. There is a reason why expats and you really need to spend a lot of time real expats nearly always end up with certain Asian women. There is also a reason why the MOST SUCCESSFUL western guys are increasingly ending up with Asian women where Japanese women are on the top of that hierarchy. They are the ultimate real guys-guy companion. They are on average very psychologically tough— I would pick a JP female over any American female on average in re to the above. The MAJORITY of foreign guys with Japanese women are definitely poorer…. You wont believe what they would do until you experience it. They are just fun to be with in many different situations. They rarely force the focus on themselves…like what is standard in the US. If you are a young western guy, especially a student, there are fewer places you can select that are better than Japan in terms of being the most accomodating for a young guy that appreciates real women. This is especially the case now much more than 20 years ago because younger Japanese guys are even more less likely to be able to interact with Japanese women. The chances of the average American male ending up with a Japanese woman once he spends some time in-country is at least 90%…thats just how it is. The case about the girl demanding that you go to get her onigiris from the conbini means, if anything, you dont know how to screen appropriately for the right female in Japan. Gaijin guys who are new to the scene may end up in this situation because they are unconsciously looking for something they THINK is attractive, inviting to them based on preconceived notions. That would be written off ASAP…well, you wouldnt end up with that in the first place— too many other options. If you end up with that kind of girl…. Its not impossible to do, but very rare. Any guy with real on-the-ground time in Japan will agree with that. Best, Been in Japan and Asia as a student and then expat since 93, lived in 4 different countries two in the west including US, two in the East including Japan. For those guys serious about Asia especially Japan, if you are going to consult with anyone in the area of babes read Boye de Mente…. YuriliPizmyov My Japanese woman is the very model of obedience and submission. Moreover, a few days ago, I needed a bucket, and — I swear to God — she made one out of paper using the dark art of origami. Japanese women mostly expect men to be responsible when they once have a night together on bed as most Japanese guys know what that mean is. We are more conservative than how you think, and most Japanese women I know are pure in their heart. The controlling money thing is because we believe saving money is important to have a happy family, so women were taught to save money from our mom or grandma as much as possible and we know how guys are bad on saving. Japanese guys will be happy when his GF asks to give his wallet because that means she thinks that relationship is serious and probably she wants to get marry him someday. Think about most of the Japanese wives tried hard to save money and serve good foods for family and raised kids well. This is our culture. You foreigners would never understand. Btw I stayed USA for few years and had few boyfriends. I like American guys in America, but not the ones in Japan. This article is cheauvenistic clap trap and sounds like a skydiver writing about what happens if you dove from an airplane without a parachute. You simply need to know what you want and set those expectations from the get. Common sense and history 101 dictates the Japan is older than the U. Pays to know the language and realize that it is logical, based on evidence and the honoring of.. She was hungry, you could have provided, and had no real disabilities, only an excuse not to fulfill a simple wish. Especially, for a woman who will more than likely carry your child to term. A true connection does not recognize time and space, only the need to make each other very happy and accomplish goals that benefit the both of you as a partnership. Your article sounded like you wanted to make love to a fortune cookie and live some unrealistic twisted oriental fantasy straight out of a doji or harlequin book. Men in general need to stop pigeon holing women into something that can be worn on the wrist. They are human, give and take is expected. Learning the history, culture, and even understanding the language is a huge first step to knowing how to engage in a meaningful relationship — especially if dating abroad. There is no luck involved either. You have control over the engagement and will immediately determine if she is a fit for you regardless of origin or nationality. Christopher C well, I see The Great Whore mentality is alive and well over there as well, good to know. RIGHT INTO THE GROUND. BECAUSE MOST ARE SERIOUSLY UGLY AND STINK LIKE SHIT. The bottom line is that a LOT of dudes coming to Japan are Beta as fuck. They get wrecked by their J-women in the same manner they would get wrecked by Western women back home. Not her fault, she is just acting as she is allowed to act. I dated a Japanese woman, she was independent and cool with me. Smart, sexy, and strong. No country is perfect. She was some dumb ass from some suburb in Ontario, Canada. She pretended to be disabled and living on disability government money to support herself. STAY AWAY FROM THIS TYPE OF JP GIRL! It will sound old fashioned, but where there is love, anything is possible. You like her, she likes you… everything else just happens bucko japan totally capitulated after the US started dropping nukes; not that i blame them. Wherever I seek, I only found articles that confirm that the destiny of wedding in modern society is to ruin. What can I do?! Even Japan, who was my shining light on the end of the tunnel, is a garbage. Is possible to have a good and stable wedding nowadays? Say how you really feel to them. You know, the little things. They can go a long way. Make them curious and wonder to know more about you. You gotta be creative. We like that sorta thing. It shows that you cared enough in attempting to do so. Estafador You said your a decent person. And you also said decent persons marry. People spew stuff all the time. If you love them then try to adapt and talk. Like your point number 1 and 3, seems that you have a prince syndrome. BG Davis You mention ROK. ROK women are far more duplicitous and manipulative. This is an old, well-known and accepted part of Korean family life. Japanese women are tough but they have self-restraint. Their expectations are more predictable. My experience in this regard comes from dozens of trips to Japan, learning some of the languange, and dating 4 Japanese girls 1 of whom I dated for 2-3 years, and lived with. Passive-agressiveness, and the withdrawl of sex, and 2 of the sharpest tools in the Japanese girl arsenal. I will date them now, but I come down very hard as soon as they start playing games. One of their favorites is to always be 10-15 minutes late for a date. With no heads up. I walk after 5 mins. Corkscrewcaptain Lol at the tactical lateness, so true. Un fixable in many cases too… The passive aggressive thing and the sex withdrawal can be fixed easily if you call the bluff on sex and meet aggression with the same but harder. I liked Japanese girls enough to bring one home and wife her up. They cook and clean and so on but work? Max Wylde In my travels in Japan, I had the fortune of meeting a good friend of mine named Hideo, and he told me everything different about Japanese Culture from that of Western Cultures, and one of the things that he said was they hold Sincerity, not Honesty, as a higher value. This dovetails into their repulsion for complaining, and their aversion to direct confrontation I think this comes from a culture that went through millennia of samurai having the authority to kill any peasant who offended them. Because of that, they will smile and do whatever they can to placate you with a sincere gesture that has no honesty in it whatsoever. The notion of infidelity among spouses is a quiet issue among the Japanese. They do not mind it so long as you keep that concealed. Geisha were established so that Japanese men could go to someone and tell their troubles to, relax, hear good music, have a nice meal, and just be themselves, because Japanese wives did not want the shame of having to deal with a blubbering husband. While Geisha were not and are not necessarily required to sleep with their clients, they sometimes do, but the main point of them was to be the woman their clients wanted their own wives to be. Eastern Philosophy tends to concern itself with Order v. Chaos, as if anything Good can only come out of proper order and anything Evil can only come out of chaos. This is a simplistic generalization of course, but it says a lot about Eastern and Western viewpoints and history. Take the Rape of Nanking; this really horrified the West more than it did China and Japan. Atrocities happen, to their way of thinking, but such is the Chaos of LIfe itself, as one Buddhist told me to my face. As such you can start to see the methods to Eastern madness. Hence, why the Japanese personal penchant to avoid conflict and offense for it might bring a Chaos that unleashes tragedy. Also what you said basically says you married a woman smarter than you. The biggest issue I have is that the law and government forces men to pay for women and the children they bear that is the biggest issue. Corkscrewcaptain Not that relevant what your nationality is, in Japan there is no split custody or visitation rights. Read up on it. Andrew Crisp Been to Japan a number of times and seen both sides of Japanese women they like any where else have their good and bad women. BUT I have also had Japanese women go out of their way for me in a way that left me with culture shock I was so impressed. Morrison I always thought japanese chocks were over rated. Thanks for the article. As well, the people that become therapists are among the most fucked up assholes one could ever meet. In a relationship you sometimes go out to the store and bring your girl some food she craves. Especially when you know she spends time cooking for you. It is not manipulation, it is normal human exchange of sweet things you do for each other. Corkscrewcaptain Hehehe, a classic pulled from the archives. You have to have solid frame though, that may be what makes the difference for the most part. I call my wife on any shit she gives me every time, and she ends up apologizing. There were women like that during that period too. You see some Japanese Porn. Ok, 20 seconds in, I had enough of this sht. Just give me East-European sluts please. Why do they do that. Is that cultural or biologically determined? For hot Asians you should go to Thailand, Philipines or Vietnam anyway I guess. She was raised in an old school Japanese home and was taught old school values by her Japanese father. The first time I realized she was something completely different, was the morning after I first banged her at my apartment. I heard the bath water running as I was drinking coffee in the kitchen, so I went in to see what was up. She explained to me that she was drawing my bath, so she could bathe me and get me ready for work. I about dropped my coffee cup on the floor. About a half-hour later, after she had finished sponge-bathing me, and toweling me off, she started ironing my clothes for work that morning. And after she did that, she cooked me a full-on breakfast buffet. This ritual occurred every single time that she would spend the night at my place. In addition, she would buy me things — clothing, mostly. Sometimes, she would leave money in my dresser drawer she came from a wealthy family. She cooked for me, cleaned my apartment, and it was all really great, until the time came when she decided to start leaving her own personal items in my space. We stopped hooking up shortly thereafter, and I returned to my prior habit of banging white Western sluts. But I really started to miss her after two or three years of steadily banging disrespectful, mouthy, rude white women…those old school Japanese-raised women are really something else. That, I think, is the biggest difference between them and western women. Western women expect the world to fall on its knees because pussy. But despite that, she was still a five-star whore. But you already know that, which is why you continually comment here at ROK…wink-wink. Have a nice gay now. Sounds like you could fuck her for hours when she was passed out. So she cheated on you? Girls only cheat on losers, anyway. Waldemar Pabst Good comment. Asian women are far, far more affectionate and sensual than Western women. The most sensual and erotic experiences I ever had were with a Chinese woman. Not just sex, but romance and genuine affection and love. American women are like driving a banged up Jeep Wrangler. Asian women from Asia are like driving a luxury car. American women are quite strident in not wanting anything in the way of emotional or spiritual connection or support from men. Dealing with American women is utilitarian. I always feel I should address them as a comrade. Being in a relationship with an Asian woman is far more balanced and harmonious. I mean, think about it! When women are married to men like that, frankly I wish them godspeed! Most dress a lot better than American girls, and are thinner which makes them more attractive. LOL No one hires a Russian or Czech au pair. These women are going abroad to be porn stars or hookers or tag the sponsor port a potties. People want their children to learn Spanish or maybe Chinese. Russian, or Czech, or Hungarian not so much. Their culture wants them to be submissive little drones who go to work and slave away until they die. Not all men like big breasts. Asian women seem more evolved, less animalistic. Big jugs look more fitting on a cow, not on a woman. And outside of a bra or past the age of 27, the big breasts will all sag. Waldemar Pabst For a lot of intellectual men, Asian women are more easy to relate to. American women are loud, uncouth, vulgar, and profane. Asian women are soft-spoken does not mean they are submissive , reserved with strangers, etc. American women act friendly to strangers but are cold to their boyfriend or husband. Asian women are aloof and reserved with strangers but very affectionate and demonstrative with their man. Waldemar Pabst Asian women usually have sex in the context of a LTR and have low notch counts. They very often marry their first boyfriend. That is why you see college age Asian couples doing things that to Americans seem immature: holding hands, going apple picking, etc. Japanese dudes also cockblock like crazy. If you want very high quality, you have to be on your game. Jim Jones Koolaid I see the author questioning Japanese women when he should be looking at his own behavior. Get me steaming balls to eat at 1 am standard shit test! So rather than pass the shit test the author gets angry and defensisve fail. Hey girl I have some home made salty balls for you. And shes going to stop eating? Oh babe youre hurting me so bad here, and you know it would even be worse if you went to the gym too. Women will shit test you, its their nature…if she doesnt shit test you , shes probably going to be willing to fuck anyone because she has no standards. The author keeps doing this.. Instead say what you want, and insist on it until you get it. If she doesnt like it she can hit the road. Burner Prime Japanese women can be tamed by treating them the same way you treat all women. You always maintain frame and act like a leader and fearless champion. Most stuff in this article sounds like run-of-the-mill shit testing. You need more than white skin to keep a Japanese girl interested. But if you are worthy of respect and fear the girls will act very differently, especially if they consider you to be almost unbeatable. Burner Prime They are starved for strong masculine men and are fascinated by Western men who are not the same er, that would be me, HAH! In the end she was not docile or submissive. She could appear that way and submit herself into getting exactly what she wanted. It took a while before I realized how I was being manipulated. The second point was almost as described. She did take care of the finances, but was quite good at it and was not a shopaholic type — but then we were not married and I realize that may have changed if I had been insane enough to sign papers. The third and fourth points I found completely untrue of her. Fifth point — no kids, no problems. She was a sex freak and was aggressive about it. This is one reason I was blind to the first point. Sure, there were differences in her to the other women I have dated but I cannot completely agree with the generalizations of this article as I have experienced some of the issues with American and European women. Sir Lee I had a japanese girfriend for 6 years. Wonderful, highly recomend to all men… But, you are correct AWALT. Its all a long con. Dont get married, keep playing. The difference presently is price. You can capitalise on ass arbitrage. But short time only… Yeah… I know I would get my shit fucked up trying to go in there and believe the stereotype True There are a few good ones but, still. No racist shit on my part. Just logically speaking when you are a rookie in any situation you will get played Plus, movies fucked me up about different areas in the world. Real research such as posts like these and doing my own footwork mentally is slowly helping me see the reality more than the expectations Also, my thing is any chick can be gamed on if your shit is on point. Sometimes it will work, other times it will not. I have been in Japan for 3 years, and have had my share of Jappy girls. My point is, girls here are the same as most any other country. The higher you go up, the more shit and high expectations you must deal with. With that said, I have tried to aim high the elusive 10 , and SUCCEEDED. While I was with said 9-10 level girls, then this article becomes true — but again, this is the perspective of a beta who was out of his league. Now, for the level 6-8 girls, I have NEVER had any problems like this. Most of them beg for marriage within a month, and they genuinely mean it. They will fight for the feminist ideals to the death, and moreover, they will have plenty of assistance in doing it. Japanese girls are feminist cunts too. However, if you show any and I mean ANY kind of alpha-tude, they respond positively. A LITTLE bit of alpha is really all you need, and you need to be consistent. They fall in line, unlike their Western species. Moreover, they are constantly ENCOURAGED by family and friends to fall in line, if they sense that an alpha-provider is in her mix. You most certainly will not find yourself in trouble with the law or HR. That leaves you with two solutions: 1 Aim a bit lower. I personally fall into this category, to an extent. I definitely do not shoot lower than 7. I am content with what I have, so this works for me. Learn WHY you are failing, then simply adapt and overcome. But DO NOT pussy-out and start complaining about the game. Quick to back down, programmed to be a stepford wife? They are submissive within my range of attraction, and only after I have trained them. I agree, we men do love a challenge, and I have mine. It's a short-term thing that can be fixed in fewer than 24 hours. Dread game a fair bit, flirt in front of her What I do is see what level I can get and then went a little lower for picking a wife. Most of the very pretty ones go to bars a lot and are not really traditional, which for me was important. My wife is about as traditional as they come, house wife, all the bells and whistles lol. I fell into that trap too, married a Japanese. Japanese girls think they are the highest evolution of Asian women. They marry a westerner to avoid the traditional roles they are expected to play. So you lose what is really attractive about them automatically when you marry them. Her family was great. Saw many things that usually gaijin are not usually allowed to see. Visit the country, but stay away from the women…. Kuniyo Watanabe How many samples of Japanese girls have you got? If you got them around the camp, those are all whores. What makes you think marrying a westerner help JP girls avoid the traditional roles? You animals expect too much without having enough mental strength to accept the reality, which drives you to commit sex crimes. Japanese women and other women will fuck you only if you marry them or have a child with them. As long as you escape it you are safe and they are powerless against you. Prime Minister Abe and his cabinet and the national diet are only recently dominated by Nippon Kaigi members. They eschew the feminism which is in part driving their plummeting population numbers. The link: chrisredfield31 This is good news but bad news for gaijin huhuhu. Japan failed when they went against China and Korea as well as SEA. ActuallyThis I think the issue everyone is having here is that you are all nostalgic for an era that never existed. This is not new. Furthermore, if the man has far less interaction with the children and has exhibited few domestic abilities, how can he suddenly expect custody of those children? In the era that is romanticized on this site, men had far fewer child visitation rights than they do now. I do agree that men should experience more fairness in family courts today, but this is assuming that more and more parents are sharing domestic and income responsibilities. The fact is that both genders will feel injustice in traditional households as well as modern households.

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Justin Let me guess… she spoke fluent English. Not married yet, but again, if you let it happen, then it will. Jesus girls will never call you, message you, ask for your number, suggest a meet, or do anything else that implies that they are interested in you other than be good company. Even before I came out to her, I had a black boyfriend. I was North like that but I was too poor when I was a child to afford a PC to keep up with anime and manga. But then, after living in Japan and later China for a long time, I started to spend more time with your average Japanese woman at the office. North share in the comments. You are as unattractive in South America or SE Asia as you were in a western nation.

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Cacioppo til at belyse ensomhed ud fra en kognitiv tilgang. Den sidste del af opgaven er ren teoretisk. Men lige omkring det her er det, at jeg får en bedre relation til barnet i samtalen, hvis det ikke er i gruppe, så kommer der en rigtig fin kontakt og så bliver der en naturlig vekselvirkning i dialogen, for ligeså snart, at det er en gruppe, så er der noget andet i spil og så er det den, der har førerhatten på i gruppen, der kan finde på at svare på den andens vegne og.. Faldforebyggelse i kommunerne en hurtig medicinsk teknologisk vurdering lavet af alle Fyns kommuner juni 2009.

Der er en ramme på 20. I udgivelsen præsenteres også to nye redskaber — UCLA 3 til opsporing af ensomhed og social isolation samt TOBS til måling af vitale parametre.

Nye anbefalinger til tidlig opsporing - Jeg er træt af at tro noget andet, træt af den afstand, det kan gi. Den anden del omhandler sundhedsplejerskens mulighed for at fremme mental sundhed og trivsel i forhold til de psykologiske og sociale faktorer, der kan være årsag til ensomhed, hvilket er baggrunden for hovedoverskrifterne i analysedelen.

En opgave om opsporing og forebyggelse af ensomhed blandt skolebørn via sundhedssamtalen som redskab. Vi har jo brug for hinanden, hvorfor lade som om, at det kan klares uden et smil en hjælpende hånd. Vi har jo brug for hinanden, hvorfor lyve om det, hvorfor skjule et savn vi ved alle folk kender til. Jeg er træt af at lyve og tie, træt af altid at la vær, sige hvad jeg tænker på, vise jer, hvem jeg er. For jeg vil bruge og bruges. Ja, jeg vil gi meget mer. Jeg vil nå ind til en verden, hvor glæden og smerten lever og er. For jeg vil bruge og bruges, fordi mit liv er så kort Til alle dem der tør tage den, til den der vil ha det, gi r jeg det bort. Vi har jo brug for hinanden, det er let nok at se. Vi er alle sammen ens, når det kommer til det. Vi har jo brug for hinanden, vi kan ikke la vær. Vi bli r nødt til at sige, hvad vi tænker og gi, hvad der er. Jeg er træt af at tro noget andet, træt af den afstand, det kan gi. Når jeg holder hovedet koldt, når jeg holder ryggen fri. Tøsedrengene 1984 Udarbejdet af: Mette Winsløw Caesar Studienummer: a Vejleder: Gitte Kaarina Jørgensen Institution: Professionshøjskolen Metropol Afsluttende opgave på Specialuddannelsen til sundhedsplejerske Måned og år: Juni 2016 Sider og antal tegn: 49 sider og anslag. Opgaven må anvendes internt på uddannelsen. SØGEHISTORIK FRA DATABASEN CINAHL. INTERVIEWGUIDE 46 BILAG 4. EKSEMPEL PÅ MENINGSKONDENSERING EFTER KVALE OG BRINKMANN. Det er der 5-10 % af de danske skolebørn, der gør. Opgaven handler om, hvordan sundhedsplejersken kan bidrage til at opspore og forebygge ensomhed via sundhedssamtalen på 6. Jeg bruger forskerne Mathias Lasgaard og John T. Cacioppo til at belyse ensomhed ud fra en kognitiv tilgang. Borup og Karen Wistoft har begge interviewet skolebørn og sundhedsplejersker ang. Jeg bruger deres undersøgelser i forhold til min egen indsamlede empiri, der udgør tre semistrukturerede interviews af sundhedsplejersker. Jeg kobler empirien til Skolebørnsundersøgelsen 2014 , en svensk undersøgelse, samt Sundhedsstyrelsens anbefalinger. Konklusionen er, at sundhedsplejersken kan bidrage ved at skabe en god relation til den unge, der giver mulighed for refleksion og dialog omkring sundhed og trivsel med udgangspunkt i den unge selv. Desuden skal sundhedsplejersken spørge direkte til ensomhed, og her kan et spørgeskema være et brugbart redskab. Vi har jo brug for hinanden, hvorfor lyve om det, hvorfor skjule et savn, vi ved alle folk kender til. Sådan indleder sangeren Anne Dorthe Michelsen sin tekst til sangen Bruge og bruges fra bandet Tøsedrengenes storhedstid i 1980 erne se forsiden. Jeg har altid holdt meget af lige netop denne sang. Hvis man nu ikke bliver brugt eller ikke bruger andre, er man så ensom? På baggrund af denne undersøgelse har der i uge 17 været en landsdækkende kampagne mod ensomhed Danmark spiser sammen. Det er et 3-årigt projekt med Folkebevægelsen mod ensomhed som primus motor, hvor målet er at halvere antallet af ensomme inden 2020 ved bl. Folkebevægelsen mod ensomhed er en sammenslutning af mere end 60 organisationer, foreninger, kommuner, virksomheder og skoler modensomhed. Som sundhedsplejerskestuderende oplevede jeg under min klinikperiode, at ensomhed også var et aktuelt emne hos skolebørn, idet der i en 8. Dette kom frem via den anonyme sundhedsprofil, der laves i forbindelse med sundhedseksperimentariet og udskolingsundersøgelsen. Jeg blev nysgerrig på, hvor udbredt ensomhed er blandt skolebørn, og om der er flere ensomme unge end jeg går og forestiller mig. Undersøgelsen omhandler en spørgeskemaundersøgelse blandt danske 8. Der deltog 379 elever, som kom fra 22 forskellige skoler spredt ud over hele landet. Spørgeskemaet bestod af 191 spørgsmål og var sammensat af 10 forskellige måleredskaber, hvis formål var at måle både psykologiske og sociale faktorer. Han fandt ud af, at ensomhed var et alvorligt problem hos danske 8. Desuden viser undersøgelsen, at ensomme unge har et lavt selvværd, at de savner social støtte og er dårlige til at bede deres netværk om hjælp Lasgaard 2012. At ensomhed ikke blot er et problem hos 8. Formålet er at få en øget indsigt i unge menneskers 5. Undersøgelsen viser desuden, at drenge har højere selvværd end pigerne, og at pigernes selvværd falder markant fra års alderen Holstein et al. Ensomhed og selvværd er to parametre, der fortæller noget om unges mentale sundhed og trivsel. Mental sundhed er et begreb, der gennem de seneste 15 år har været øget interesse omkring både fra den samfundsmæssige og den sundhedsfaglige vinkel. Årets tema på landskonferencen for sundhedsplejersker var mental sundhed FSS 2016. Mental sundhed har således både en psykisk og en social dimension, hvor den psykiske dimension består af tanker, følelser og vilje herunder den enkeltes selvværd, og den sociale dimension består af kommunikation, herunder social anerkendelse og at føle sig inkluderet i et fællesskab. Mental sundhed indeholder begge dimensioner, og ingen af dimensionerne kan stå alene Wistoft 2012. Regeringen satte i 2014 mental sundhed og trivsel blandt børn og unge på den politiske dagsorden via de 7 nationale råd, hvor mål nr. Man ved, at når børn eller unge mistrives, så går det ud over deres indlæring, deres overskud i dagligdagen, søvn, samt lyst og mulighed for at indgå i sociale relationer, hvorfor en af regeringens visioner netop er, at børn har ret til et liv uden mobning og med høj trivsel Regeringen 2014. Nogle af de eksisterende tiltag fra regeringens side er bl. I den nationale trivselsmåling spørges der direkte til oplevelsen af ensomhed, og på landsplan svarer elever, at de føler sig ensomme meget tit eller tit, hvilket svarer til 6 % ud af de elever, der har besvaret spørgsmålet. Trivselsmålingen er interessant, fordi den kan danne baggrund for fremtidig kommunal indsats i forhold til at fremme elevernes trivsel Undervisningsministeriet 2015. Ligesom den nationale trivselsmåling er forebyggelsespakken om mental sundhed udarbejdet med henblik på at understøtte kommunernes arbejde i forhold til at fremme borgernes mentale sundhed Sundhedsstyrelsen 2013. Siden kommunalreformen blev vedtaget i 2007 har det været op til den enkelte kommune, hvilke forebyggende og sundhedsfremmende tiltag, der blev iværksat også i forhold til børn og unge. Kommunen skal ifølge sundhedslovens kap stk. Som følge heraf er det forskelligt, hvilke tilbud børn og unge får i forbindelse med skolesundhedspleje. Opgavens problemstilling omkring ensomhed blandt skolebørn indskriver sig på alle tre indsatsniveauer, idet man både kan tale om ensomhed som tema på et generelt plan i klassen som en sundhedspædagogisk aktivitet, man kan være opmærksom på problematikken i sundhedssamtalen, og endeligt kan man arbejde målrettet med ensomhedsproblematikken i behovssamtaler og i et tværfagligt regi. I den kommune jeg var ansat i under min klinikperiode kommunen kaldes herefter X , tilbyder man en sundhedssamtale i 0. Som studerende oplevede jeg, at sundhedssamtalerne kunne være meget forskellige og variere i kvaliteten. Det var op til den enkelte sundhedsplejerske, hvordan hun afholdt sundhedssamtalerne. Sundhedsplejerske, docent og Doctor of Public Health, Ina K. Borup har forsket en del i sundhedssamtalen og konkluderede i sin artikel Danish pupils perceived satisfaction with the health dialogue: Associations with the office and work procedure of the school health nurse fra år 2000, at skoleelever oplever sundhedssamtalen som god, når: 1 Eleverne havde indflydelse på sundhedssamtalens indhold. Sundhedssamtalen anvendes primært som redskab til at opspore og forebygge mistrivsel og sygdom Wistoft 2007 , hvorfor jeg finder det relevant at kigge nærmere på sundhedssamtalen i forhold til opsporing og forebyggelse af ensomhed. Der er bevågenhed omkring ensomhed, mental sundhed og trivsel både fra politisk side og sundhedsfagligt, hvilket gør emnet aktuelt og relevant at beskæftige sig med. Blandt skolebørn er det ca %, der føler sig ensomme, og sundhedsplejersken har via sin funktion på skolerne bl. Der er mange forskellige tilgange til ensomhed. Mathias Lasgaard nævner fire. Den psykodynamiske, den sociologiske, den interaktionistiske og den kognitive Lasgaard 2012. Den kognitive tilgang peger på betydningen af den enkeltes 7 9 oplevelse af både psykologiske- og sociale faktorer og ser ensomhed som en uoverensstemmelse mellem personens faktiske- og ønskede sociale relationer. Desuden antager den kognitive tilgang, at der er en reciprok sammenhæng imellem ensomhed og lavt selvværd Lasgaard 2012. Jeg vælger at se ensomhed ud fra den kognitive tilgang, fordi det er den tilgang, der giver mening for mig i forhold til sundhedsplejerskens konkrete forebyggende og sundhedsfremmende arbejde velvidende om, at de andre tre tilgange også er relevante at medtænke i den samlede helhedsvurdering af den unge. Opgaven omhandler skolebørn på 6. Jeg har valgt dette klassetrin af flere grunde. Erikson inddeler livet i 8 stadier, hvor hver periode har en udviklingskrise. Ungdomsperioden er stadie 5 og udviklingskrisen benævnes identitet kontra identitetsforvirring. Identitet er oplevelsen af og bevidstheden om at være sig selv og kunne dele med andre Jerlang 2008. Ud over familien og skolen får vennerne betydning for den enkeltes udvikling af identitet og det at være en del af et fællesskab, fx gennem sport Jerlang 2008. Opgaven omhandler således sundhedsplejerskens mulighed for at bidrage til opsporing og forebyggelse af ensomhed via sundhedssamtalen og ikke de tilbud og muligheder hun har, når først hun har opsporet det ensomme skolebarn. Jeg berører derfor kun overfladisk de konsekvenser, som ensomhed kan medfører. I forhold til mental sundhed og trivsel vælger jeg at se på, hvordan sundhedsplejersken kan arbejde sundhedsfremmende via sundhedssamtalen i forhold til at styrke skolebarnets selvværd, fordi lavt selvværd øger risikoen for ensomhed Lasgaard 2012. Dette leder mig frem til problemformuleringen. Forebyggelse kan inddeles i henholdsvis primær, sekundær og tertiær forebyggelse, hvor jeg i opgaven beskæftiger mig med både primær- og sekundær forebyggelse. Primær forebyggelse omhandler den indsats, der her ydes for at mindske risikoen for at ensomhed opstår eller den indsats, der laves for at forbedre den enkeltes livskvalitet. I relation til sundhedssamtalen forbinder jeg sekundær forebyggelse med de screeninger, højde, vægt, syn og hørelse som er en del af sundhedssamtalens indhold. Opsporing: Opsporing eller tidlig opsporing er: en del af sekundær forebyggelse, der har til formål at diagnosticere sygdom tidligst muligt Sundhedsstyrelsen 2005 s. I denne opgave handler det om opsporing af ensomhed, hvilket sundhedssamtalen kan give anledning til. Sundhedsfremme tager således sit afsæt i muligheder og ressourcer og udspringer af en salutogenetisk tilgang. Trivsel: Trivsel defineres som et udtryk for et velbefindende, der giver følelsen af overskud, gåpåmod, handlekraft og glæde ved at være sammen med andre Wistoft 2012 s. Den måde, hvorpå jeg anskuer min problemformulering på via teori og empiri har til formål at forstå og fortolke, så jeg på den måde kan opnå en ny erkendelse, som samles i konklusionen. Måden, hvorpå man erkender og forstår på indenfor hermeneutikken er via den hermeneutiske cirkel. Grundtanken er, at der er et cirkulært forhold mellem helheds- og delforståelse, hvilket betyder, at delene kun forstås i kraft af helheden og helheden kun i kraft af delene Birkler 2005. Men alt det man forstår, forstår man ifølge den tyske filosof Hans Georg Gardamer igennem ens forforståelse, hvilket betyder, at vi altid vil fortolke den verden vi er en del af ud fra vores forforståelse Birkler 2005. Ens forforståelse kan både udgøre den motivationsfaktor, der var årsag til valg af problemstilling og samtidig udgøre de blinde punkter, som man måtte have i forhold til metode, kilder og databearbejdning Bjerrum 2005. I næste afsnit redegør jeg for min egen forforståelse. Disse kan være påvirket af mine personlige erfaringer, hverdags- og videnskabelig viden Bjerrum 2005. I denne opgave er det bl. Jeg kombinerede først søgeordene indenfor hvert aspekt med den boolske operator or og derefter på tværs af kolonnerne med and. Jeg fandt hurtigt ud af, at mental health var alt for stort et søgeord, og forsøgte mig derfor med forskellige kombinationer med de 3 andre søgeord under Aspekt 2. Der kom ingen resultater, hvis man søgte på loneliness, health dialogue samt aspekt 1 og 3 med and imellem. Mine limits var Fulltext, og litteratur fra 2005 og frem. Der er dog medtaget artikler om sundhedssamtalen af Ina K. Borup, der går tilbage til år Artiklerne skulle være på engelsk, dansk eller svensk Eks. Desuden anvender jeg kapitlet Ensom, men ikke alene i bogen med samme titel fra 2012 skrevet af kandidat Katrine Rich Madsen og Mathias Lasgaard til analysedelens første afsnit om ensomhed. Den amerikanske professor John Cacioppo, der er tilknyttet University of Chicago, er blandt verdens førende forskere i ensomhed. Han undersøger, hvordan ensomhed påvirker vores hjerne og dermed både krop og psyke. Han repræsenterer den kognitive tilgang til ensomhed og har interesseret sig meget for, hvad det vil sige at være social connected og hvilke konsekvenser det har rent fysiologisk, hvis man er ensom. Jeg anvender hans artikel Do you feel lonely? You are not alone: lessons from social neuroscience fra 2013, der er oversat til dansk i bogen Ensom, men ikke alene, som er en antologi om unge og ensomhed. Desuden anvender jeg dele af hans bog Loneliness: human nature and the need for social connection fra 2008 til at underbygge vigtigheden af sociale relationer i forhold til den unges trivsel. Men særligt i afsnittet omkring sundhedssamtalen, hvor jeg tager udgangspunkt dels i hendes artikel sundhedssamtalen i Zig Zak kurs fra 2007 og dels i bogen Værdier på spil? Sundhedsplejerske, docent og Doctor of Public Health Ina K. Borup har forsket i sundhedssamtalen, og jeg anvender dele af artiklen The school health nurse s assesment of a succesful health dialouge fra 2002, som er baseret på 8 semistrukturerede kvalitative interviews med sundhedsplejersker. Jeg anvender den til at få belyst sundhedsplejerskens perspektiv på, hvad der skal til for at skabe en god og udbytterig sundhedssamtale. Jeg inddrager artiklen i analysedelen omkring sundhedssamtalen og relationen mellem den unge og sundhedsplejersken. Svenskerne Marie Golsäter, Birgitta Sidenvall, Karin Enskär er alle tilknyttet Jönköping University the School of Health Science, og Hans Lingfors er læge. De har skrevet artiklen Adolescents and school nurses perceptions of using a health and lifestyle tool in health dialogues 2011 , hvilken jeg bruger til at underbygge den del af analysen, som omhandler det at anvende et skema som redskab i sundhedssamtalen. Anne Linder har gennem en årrække arbejdet med og publiceret artikler og bøger indenfor pædagogisk relations arbejde og styrkebaseret pædagogik. Jeg anvender teori omkring den styrkebaserede pædagogik og begrebet livsduelighed i sidste del af analysen, hvor fokus er at støtte og styrke den unges selvværd. Jeg interviewede tre sundhedsplejersker fra X-kommune for at få et indblik i deres oplevelser og muligheder i forhold til opsporing og forebyggelse af ensomhed blandt skolebørn, samt deres brug af sundhedssamtalen som redskab. De tre informanter er anonymiseret og kaldt A, B og C, og navne på personer og steder er ligeledes anonymiseret i opgaven. Interviewguiden indeholdt tre overordnede temaer, hvilket var ensomhed, sundhedssamtalen og elevens medinddragelse i sundhedssamtalen. Under hvert tema var der to til fem undertemaer bilag 3. Jeg sendte en mail til tre udvalgte sundhedsplejersker, hvori jeg beskrev formålet med interviewene og min foreløbige problemformulering. Samtidig gjorde jeg dem bekendt med de etiske overvejelser omkring indsamling af min empiri, såsom at det var frivilligt at deltage, at de blev anonymiseret i opgaven, at interviewet ca. De meldte alle positivt tilbage og indenfor 14 dage blev interviewene afholdt på en lokation, som de bestemte. Alle interview blev efterfølgende transskriberet ordret i fuld længde. Under interview B drillede teknikken og de sidste 12 minutter af interviewet mangler pga. De transskriberede interviews blev sendt tilbage til informanterne, så de havde mulighed for at tilføje eller ændre noget. De havde et par rettelser, men det var mest et ønske om, at få slettet øhm og øh og intet af væsentlig betydning for meningen. Rent formelt har de underskrevet en skriftlig samtykkeerklæring forud for interviewene ang. Interviewene vil blive slettet, når opgaven er afleveret. Ligeledes har jeg indhentet samtykke fra vejleder og leder af sundhedsplejen i den kommune, hvor informanterne er ansat Valg af informanter Jeg valgte, at interviewe nogle sundhedsplejersker shpl. Mine inklusionskriterier var, at alle var interesserede 13 15 i udvikling af skolearbejdet, at de var på forskellige skoler og havde flere års erfaring som sundhedsplejerske. Den anden del omhandler sundhedsplejerskens mulighed for at fremme mental sundhed og trivsel i forhold til de psykologiske og sociale faktorer, der kan være årsag til ensomhed, hvilket er baggrunden for hovedoverskrifterne i analysedelen. Jeg har ud fra Kvale og Brinkmann bearbejdet mine data fra de tre interviews vha. Jeg har dog indsat en ekstra mellemregning imellem trin 2 og 3, hvor jeg har uddraget essensen af meningsenheden og ud fra den fundet et tema bilag 4. Jeg fandt tre overordnede temaer: ensomhed, sundhedssamtalen og det relationelle aspekt. Andre væsentlige temaer, der fremkom, var: almengøre ensomhed på klasseplan, tilbud til ensomme unge og sundhedsplejerskens handlemuligheder. Disse er dog ikke medtaget i opgaven, da omdrejningspunkterne er ensomhed og sundhedssamtalen. Under temaet sundhedssamtalen fremkom flere undertemaer, hvor jeg vælger at kigge nærmere på rammerne, hvilket inkluderer ydre struktur, tid og indhold, samt skema som redskab. Under skema som redskab hører også det relationelle aspekt med undertemaerne medinddragelse og relationen mellem den unge og sundhedsplejersken. De fremkommende temaer og undertemaer danner baggrund for nogle af mine overskrifter i analysedelen. Jeg bruger citaterne fra mine interviews forskelligt. I første del om ensomhed bruges citaterne til at understøtte teorien. I anden del er det citaterne, der har været styrende for, hvilke temaer, jeg har medtaget i analysen ud fra min problemformulering. Den sidste del af opgaven er ren teoretisk. Man kan sagtens være alene uden at føle sig ensom, og man kan også føle sig ensom, selvom man fysisk er sammen med andre. Ensomhed er som beskrevet i indledningen et problem blandt danske unge, hvilket alle tre informanter kunne nikke genkendende til. Den ene udtaler: B: at der i mange af klasserne er mange, der er ensomme og vi snakker ikke om at være alene, men vi snakker om ensomhed som en ufrivillig størrelse. Ensomhed, det er jo ikke noget, man selv vælger at være, som i modsætning til, at man vælger at være alene, fordi man har behov for lige at trække sig lidt væk eller noget. Men ensomhed som en ufrivillig størrelse med alle de konsekvenser, som ensomhed kan have Interview B, linje 22-27. B oplever, at der er mange ensomme unge og refererer til ensomhed som værende forskelligt fra det at være alene. Ensomhed er en ufrivillig størrelse og dermed ikke noget man selv vælger. Hvorimod det at være alene både kan være et ufrivilligt vilkår og et bevidst valg. Det at føle sig ensom af og til er en naturlig del af det at være menneske. De fleste vil opleve følelsen på et tidspunkt i livet fx i forbindelse med flytning, tab af et kæledyr eller en person, som man er tæt knyttet til, skift fra børnehave til skole osv. Men også overgange i selve livet som fx at komme i puberteten, hvilket er aktuelt for unge i 6. De omtalte konsekvenser forudsætter, at ensomhedsfølelsen har bidt sig fast og er blevet kronisk. Graden af ensomhed kan således variere, hvilket kommer til udtryk i nedenstående citat, hvor der i en sundhedsprofil spørges ind til grad og hyppighed af ensomhedsfølelsen. B: jah, hvor de scorer sig selv, og hvor de fortæller om de føler sig ensomme, og hvor ofte de føler sig ensomme, om det ligesom er, hvor udbredt det er, for det er, hvor man kan få en fornemmelse af om de trækker sig lidt, fordi der har været noget specifikt eller er det noget mere generelt kronisk ensomhed, hvor det ligesom er gået ind og har taget over for personen. Og bliver personens identitet næsten eller bliver personen. Det er ligesom noget andet, hvilken grad ensomheden har eller, hvor meget den har fået tag i personen. Og det kan jo faktisk være rigtig svært at se ude fra, hvis man ikke får stillet spørgsmålet omkring ensomhed Interview B, linje 58-64. Noget andet centralt, der udtrykkes i citatet er, at ensomhed kan være svært at se ude fra, hvis man ikke får spurgt til det direkte. Denne pointe er væsentlig at medtænke i forhold til sundhedssamtalen og et evt. Hvem er det, der er ensom og er der nogen speciel adfærd, man som sundhedsplejerske skal være opmærksom på? Den ene sundhedsplejerske udtrykker det således: B:.. Ligesom mere utydelig for de andre at se det. Eller trækker sig hjem på værelset, så ingen kan se det eller sådan.. Det kan være alle Interview B, linje. Den ensomme elev kan altså både være den pige, der drøner rundt eller den pige, der er mere tilbagetrukken og laver lektier i frikvarteret eller den person, der trækker sig hjem på værelset. Det kan kort sagt være alle. I citatet beskrives den unge som en pige, men hvis du spørger sundhedsplejerskerne om de møder flest ensomme piger eller drenge, så svarer de to umiddelbart piger, hvor den sidste ikke mener, at kønnet spiller en forskel. Man giver som forklaring på denne uenighed, at det har noget at gøre med den måde, hvorpå man spørger ind til ensomhed på. Der er mange forskellige måder at måle unges ensomhed på, men nogle metoder, der hyppigt ses anvendt er enten at spørge direkte Føler du dig ensom? UCLA University of California Los Angeles - Loneliness Scale er en anerkendt skala i international forskning og måler graden af ensomhed hos den enkelte uden direkte at bruge ordet ensomhed. Skalaen er udviklet i 1978 og sidst revideret i 1996 af psykolog og professor Daniel W. Den består af 20 spørgsmål med 4 svarmuligheder til hvert spørgsmål, hvor en høj pointscore indikerer svær ensomhed Lasgaard 2012. I Skolebørnsundersøgelsen 2014 kombineres de to metoder, men kun med følgende fire spørgsmål fra skalaen: 17 19 Hvor ofte føler du dig isoleret fra andre? Hvor ofte savner du nogen at være sammen med? Hvor ofte føler du dig holdt udenfor? Disse 4 spørgsmål indkredser væsentlige områder af ensomhedsaspektet, hvorfor det meget vel kunne være de spørgsmål, der blev suppleret med i forhold til det direkte spørgsmål om ensomhed i et spørgeskema til sundhedssamtalen. Ifølge den kognitive tilgang til ensomhed skyldes ensomhed en kombination af nogle individbundne psykologiske faktorer, som attributionsstil, personlighedstræk og lavt selvværd og individets oplevelse af eget netværk og sociale relationer som den sociale faktor, hvilket uddybes i de næste to underafsnit Psykologiske faktorer Attributionsstil refererer til måden, hvorpå den enkelte forsøger at skabe mening med den sociale situation, som vedkommende befinder sig i Lasgaard 2012. En ung med kronisk ensomhed vil med en dårlig attributionsstil forklare sin situation med, at det er den unges egen skyld pga. Dette er med til at fastholde dem i ensomhedsfølelsen Lasgaard 2012. C beskriver, hvordan en piges usikkerhed og generthed giver problemer i forhold til veninderne, fordi hun ofte føler sig afvist: C: Jeg havde så sent som i dag en pige, der startede med at sige, at hun var usikker og lidt genert og det gav hende lidt problemer i forhold til veninderne, for når hun så ringede til dem og spurgte om de skulle lave noget, så følte hun faktisk tit, at hun blev afvist Interview C, linje 16-19. Dette sætter nogle tanker i gang om, hvor smertefuldt det må være at føle sig ensom over en længere periode, og afvisningerne kan på sigt påvirke pigens selvværd, hvis ikke hun får noget støtte, i forhold til at få lavet aftaler med veninderne. Selvværd definerer Karen Wistoft, som en oplevelse af at have værdi, som den man er og at man føler sig god, tilstrækkelig og kan acceptere, at man er som man er Wistoft 2012 s. Som nævnt i indledningen viser Skolebørnsundersøgelsen, at pigerne har et lavere selvværd end drengene, og at pigernes selvværd dykker væsentligt fra års alderen Holstein et al. Lige præcis selvværd er en faktor, som er væsentlig at være opmærksom på som sundhedsplejerske, idet lavt selvværd påvirker evnen til at etablere og fastholde sociale relationer, hvilket øger risikoen for at føle sig ensom Lasgaard 2012 Oplevelsen af de sociale relationer som social faktor Ensomhed kan som tidligere beskrevet se ud på mange måder, og man kan godt føle sig ensom, selvom man umiddelbart ser ud til at have mange venner og være aktiv i fritiden. Selvom man har masser af aktiviteter, så kan man have personlige problemer, som man ikke har nogle voksne eller andre unge, man kan snakke fortroligt med om, og derfor føle sig ensom. B i nedenstående citat: B: fordi tit når jeg snakker med 9. Men alligevel kan de sidde og snakke med mig om, at de føler sig ensomme. På trods af, at nogle af dem, der nærmest virker til at have allerflest aktiviteter, men de er ikke.. Det at have nogen at være fortrolig med, hvad enten det er forældre eller venner, betyder meget for den unges trivsel. Forskning viser, at det ikke er mængden af venner eller kontakter, der er afgørende for den unges selvværd eller trivsel, men det er oplevelsen af fortrolighed. Det at have en eller flere at kunne betro sig til, samt at føle sig brugbar overfor andre Wistoft 2012. Skolebørnsundersøgelsen fra 2014 spørger ind til elevernes kvalitet af deres sociale relationer ved at spørge, hvor nemt den unge har ved at tale fortroligt med sine forældre. Undersøgelsen viser, at de fleste 13-årige kan tale fortroligt med enten sin mor eller far, men at der er flest drenge, der taler fortroligt med sine forældre Damsgaard 2015. Hvis man så ser på, hvorvidt de unge føler sig støttet af deres forældre, så er der igen flere drenge end piger, der føler sig støttet af sine forældre Damsgaard 2015. Dette gør umiddelbart pigerne lidt mere sårbare, idet kvaliteten af forældrekontakt har en væsentlig betydning for unges risiko for at udvikle følelsesmæssige problemer Damsgaard 2015. Med disse opmærksomhedspunkter in mente vil jeg se nærmere på, hvordan man som sundhedsplejerske via sundhedssamtalen kan bidrage til opsporing og forebyggelse af ensomhed blandt skolebørn på 6. Afsnittet omhandler således selve sundhedssamtalen, herunder rammerne for sundhedssamtalen, hvilket indbefatter ydre struktur, tid og indhold. Borup har i forbindelse med sin forskning om sundhedssamtalen interviewet 8 sundhedsplejersker med det formål at finde de elementer, der ud fra sundhedsplejerskernes perspektiv gør sundhedssamtalen til en succes. Hun arbejder med det at skabe det kommunikative rum for læring om sundhed og finder frem til, at der er fire overordnede elementer, som har indflydelse på, hvorvidt sundhedssamtalen bliver en succes eller ej. Undersøgelsen viser, at en succesfuld sundhedssamtale afhænger af, hvordan de fire elementer spiller sammen Borup 2002. Wistoft, Jensen og Roesen har interviewet både sundhedsplejersker og 7. Jeg anvender begge undersøgelser i forhold til egen empiri og Sundhedsstyrelsens SST anbefalinger. I X-kommune laver man sundhedssamtale, samt monitorering af højde, vægt og synstest på 6. Sundhedssamtalen er fra Sundhedsstyrelsens side lagt op til, at den kan tilrettelægges i små grupper eller individuelt. Nedenstående citater giver et indtryk af, hvordan shpl. A og C agerer og tænker i forhold til sundhedssamtalens struktur i 6. Men lige omkring det her er det, at jeg får en bedre relation til barnet i samtalen, hvis det ikke er i gruppe, så kommer der en rigtig fin kontakt og så bliver der en naturlig vekselvirkning i dialogen, for ligeså snart, at det er en gruppe, så er der noget andet i spil og så er det den, der har førerhatten på i gruppen, der kan finde på at svare på den andens vegne og.. Jeg har gjort det, at jeg har samlet dem alle sammen pigegrupperne og drengegrupperne og samlet dem og snakket lidt om det, der var vigtigt omkring puberteten, og så har jeg efterfølgende trukket mig lidt tilbage og snakket med dem enkeltvis Interview C, linje. C: og så har jeg nogen gange prøvet og afsætte en halv time til hver af dem, og så bruge tiden specifikt til den ene elev, for at komme dybere i det. Og min erfaring er, at jeg kommer dybere ned i det, der sker omkring den unge, når jeg har dem en halv time på tomands hånd. Fordi så får de snakket mere, også fordi der er mere tid til at snakke. Så det er sådan en kombination Interview C, linje. A og C har forsøgt sig lidt frem med både grupper og individuelle samtaler eller som en kombination. De er enige om, at man ved den individuelle samtale kommer dybere i samtalen og shpl. Afholdes samtalen i grupper, så kan der godt være en, der svarer for de andre og så går der kludder i det autentiske. C fortæller også, at der i de større grupper er en risiko for, at dem, der har det sværest ikke får sagt noget og blot putter sig i gruppen. C: Ja, og samtidig kan man måske også være bange for, at lige præcis dem, der har det allersværest de sidder og putter sig lidt i den store gruppe og får ikke sagt det, det i virkeligheden handler om så på den måde kan det være et dilemma, at det er en stor gruppe Interview C, linje C:, hvis gruppen er der, så er det et sted imellem 4 og 10 eller sådan noget lignende, noget i den stil.. Det er lidt forskelligt, det kommer an på den aftale, jeg kan få i stand med læreren. Nogen gange skal det gå hurtigt, og de har ikke så meget tid og andre gange kan jeg brede det ud over nogle flere dage, så det på den måde kan få til at lykkes Interview C, linje , 120,. Ifølge Borup er det en fordel at have de unge til sundhedssamtale i mindre grupper, da de på den måde kan inspirerer hinanden og situationen bliver mere ligeværdig Borup 2002. Så samlet set kan jeg konstatere, at der er delte meninger om, hvorvidt samtalen skal afholdes i grupper eller individuelt. For store grupper ser både de unge og sundhedsplejerskerne som en ulempe, men små grupper på 2-3 unge ad gangen kan være at foretrække i første omgang. Sundhedsplejerske C siger også, at det afhænger af læreren og hvor meget tid hun kan strække samtalerne over, hvorvidt hun vælger den ene eller anden ydre struktur. Næste afsnit handler om tid Tid og indhold Tid og indhold er to væsentlige faktorer i forhold til sundhedssamtalen, idet der afsættes en vis tid pr. A og C udtaler: A:.. Der er nogen gange, at det går lidt hurtigere end andre gange, så det går op i en højere enhed. Interview A, linje ,. Og hvis man så samtidig med skal sidde og kigge på uret, fordi man også lige skal nå det andet.. Men hvordan det praktisk kunne lade sig gøre.. Vi skal høre til det helbredsmæssige, vi skal høre til det psykosociale vi skal også høre til helbredet og det kan godt blive presset lidt på tid, hvis der er mange ting omkring det hele, så man ikke rigtig når i dybden med det Interview C, linje. Sundhedsplejerskerne giver i ovenstående citater udtryk for flere synspunkter. Dels, at der er forskellige områder, som de skal ind omkring i forhold til opsporing og forebyggelse af sygdom og herunder screeningsdelen med monitorering af højde, vægt og syn og dels, at det er tidskrævende at få skabt en relation, opbygget en tillid, så samtalen kan folde sig ud. I den forbindelse kunne sundhedsplejerske A godt forestille sig en samtale uden screeningerne. Hvordan det rent praktisk kan lade sig gøre ved hun ikke. Overordnet set har de 20 min. Borup og Wistoft berører begge tidsaspektet kort. Borup påpeger, at den afsatte tid til sundhedssamtalerne afhænger af sundhedsplejerskens arbejdsopgaver i øvrigt, hendes prioritering og skolens forventninger og samarbejde omkring sundhedssamtalerne Borup 2002. De unge selv pointerer, at der skal være tilstrækkelig tid til at tale om deres bekymringer uden afbrydelser Borup 2000. For mig at se spiller tiden en væsentlig rolle for rammen af sundhedssamtalen, idet der på den ene side ikke er nogen helt overordnet tidsramme fastlagt af SST, hvilket gør det til et kommunalt og ressourcemæssigt anliggende og i sidste ende den enkelte sundhedsplejerskes.

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